Manage Thyself

Manage Thyself

Managing oneself is a key aspect of Emotional Intelligence (EI) and confounds many leaders.  Let’s face it, being aware of a behavior that doesn’t serve us well is one thing; it’s quite another to exercise a suitable alternative when we’re in the heat of the moment. Let’s begin by sharing some examples of what it means to self-manage.  Leaders who self-manage well tend to… … call upon their … [Read more...]

Know Thyself … Including Thy Blind Spots

Pop Quiz:  Have you ever felt impatient and annoyed with a person sauntering in late to a meeting you’re running? Have you ever fantasized about something unpleasant happening to a co-worker who has a way of taking all the credit? Have you ever raised your voice in order to be heard in a conference room filled with a lot of opinions?  Or, are you more likely to withdraw in that … [Read more...]

The Possible Dream … Work-Life Balance

An article from Entrepreneur highlights some interesting research noting that 66 percent of full-time employees strongly believe they don’t have work-life balance. In our “always on” world this is probably no surprise. Nonetheless, that does not mean a healthy work-life balance isn’t achievable for you and your team. Afterall, as a leader, your team looks to you to set the pace and to model … [Read more...]

How True is it?

Even the best leaders live with limiting beliefs and assumptions that compromise decision-making and ultimately, their value.  One of my favorite questions for inviting reflection and challenging limiting beliefs and assumptions is:  “How True is it?” Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs and assumptions that keep leaders from playing all-in and initiating change for themselves and their … [Read more...]

Where do you take yourself out of the game?

We all have our tipping points:  We decide whether to “pass” or roll the dice depending on the risk we assign to the next move. While we know intellectually that growth and change rarely happen without some level of discomfort, most of us are not inclined to put ourselves in harm’s way.  We’d much prefer to remain safe and dodge the prickly emotions that arise if our actions don’t yield the … [Read more...]

What Are You Tolerating?

This is the “finger in the rib” question. If you put your index finger on your rib and apply light pressure, most people feel irritated, but still are able to carry on. Over time, you may even start accepting the annoyance as “normal” and a part of what you signed up for when you took this position. Our self-talk includes phrases like, “well, nothing’s perfect,” or “I have bigger battles to … [Read more...]

How To Minimize “Shiny Object Syndrome”

Is there any better place than the land of adolescents for harvesting lessons learned in dealing with distractions? My husband teaches high school English (ever-courageous soul).  One of his favorite principals, now retired, had two questions he would ask students when he’d see them wandering the halls during class times: Where are you supposed to be right now? What is the most important … [Read more...]

Put Your Superpowers to Work

Quick! Answer the following questions: Spreadsheet or doc person? Big picture or detail driven? Phone, email, text or Slack communicator? People or data preference? Siri or Google search? White board thinker or mull privately? Generally, we have an affinity for how we think, communicate and make decisions. Tapping into the skills that come naturally to you is vital to capitalizing … [Read more...]

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…

When’s the last time you looked in the mirror?  I don’t mean that last minute look in the mirror for something green between our teeth after a lunch meeting.  Actually, I’m asking figuratively, about your business and your personal leadership capabilities.  In other words, have you taken stock recently of your: Strengths Weaknesses Opportunities Threats? Or, in acronym business … [Read more...]

How Does Your Leadership Wheel Roll?

There is a lot written about leadership.  I mean A LOT!  If you search for leadership books on Amazon, 21,907 hardback books come up.  Must be a pretty important topic, or a lot of trees are sacrificing their lives for nothing. And, yet, leadership can be an amorphous topic and always easier to see than describe.  It’s not one attribute or skill that defines leadership, it’s a combination of … [Read more...]